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How Do I Know If I’m Gay?

Jul 22 2020 Published by under Uncategorized

Knowing whether or not you might be gay is not an easy question to answer for everyone. Some people feel sure of their sexual orientation from an early age and others take much longer to discover it.

In the end, only you will be able to decide if you are gay or not, but there are some questions and information you can consider as you’re trying to sort out your feelings.

What Does It Mean To Be Gay?

Gay people are sexually attracted to and may fall in love with other people of the same gender. They may also feel some degree of attraction to another gender, but they identify as gay. A person might realize they are gay from a very young age, and others may realize it much later. Some young gay people may feel different, but be unsure about why or how they are different from their friends or peers.

Forget What You Think You Know About Gay People

There are a lot of stereotypes out there about gay people, but just like any stereotype, you can’t assume that they are true for every person. There is no particular mannerism or look that is "gay." Just like any group of people, preferences, looks, interests and style varies a great deal from person to person.

Just because you are gay does not mean that everyone will automatically know. Most gay people don’t wear banners proclaiming their orientation, and chances are you already know many people who are gay, but just don’t fit into the ‘gay stereotype’.

What Do My Sexual Fantasies Mean?

Sexual fantasies are not always easy to interpret, but research has shown that many people who do not identify as gay have had same gender fantasies at some point. Just because you might fantasize about a same gender sexual experience, doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re gay. Also, many young people have a lot of intense sexual fantasies about different people and situations. Usually as they get older their feelings and orientation will become more clear.

Sexuality Is Fluid.

If you’re trying to make sense of your feelings, it might help to know that sexuality doesn’t fall solely into two categories – gay or straight. The best understanding that we have of sexuality is that it is fluid and very individual. Some people feel 100% gay or 100% straight, while others might feel like they fall somewhere on the continuum between gay and straight.

Unfortunately, no one can tell you 100% if you are gay or not, only you can know that. But there are some further questions you can consider. When you dream or have a fantasy, is it usually about the same gender? Do you have romantic and loving feelings towards someone of the same gender? Do you feel different from others that are of your same gender? Do you regularly have strong feelings for the same gender?

Even if your answers to these questions are yes, you still might feel unclear about your sexual orientation. That’s okay. It may take some time for you to feel sure about it. For many people it helps to reach out to others who have been in the same position. Seeking community support through an LGBT organization online or in your area may help you to clarify some of your feelings. Check online for support near you.

One thing you need to know: whether you are straight, gay or bi, it is absolutely fine to be who you are.

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Can a Lesbian Quiz Answer the Question?

Jul 22 2020 Published by under Uncategorized

Are you confused about your sexual orientation? Have you tried one or all of the lesbian quizzes on the internet trying to figure yourself out? If you have, you probably still aren’t sure. If you haven’t don’t waste your time. The only real way to determine your sexual orientation is to look deep inside yourself. The answer lies within you…in your heart you probably already know what that answer is.

If you are seeking out quizzes and questioning your sexual orientation, something must have happened to make you do that. That is the first place you should start your inner search. Were you attracted to someone of the same sex? Did a lesbian scene in a movie or book turn you on? Ask yourself if it was a one-time thing or if it has happened before. The more attractions you have had, the more likely you are lesbian.

Along with examining your feelings toward women, you also have to think about how you’ve felt toward the men in your past. If you have been attracted to men, try to determine if your feelings for women have been stronger. Also take a look at the number of attractions of each sex you have had. If there are only 1 or 2 men you can think of, but several women, that should tell you something.

In fact, the most confusing aspects of determining your sexual orientation will probably center around your relationships with men. Because sexual orientation is theorized to exist on a continuum, you may lean heavily toward lesbianism, but still have an occasional attraction to a man. Typically, the attraction will be of shorter duration and less intense that with women, however. Even more confusing, it is possible for some lesbians to enjoy a sex with a man.

The most important thing to remember is that physical sex is not the hallmark of lesbianism. The most important factor is romantic attraction. In short, falling in love. If you have fallen head over heels, crazy in love with a woman, if you can’t get her off your mind, you probably don’t need a quiz. You probably already know and are trying to confirm it.

If you have examined all these issues and still spend significant time and emotional energy in confusion about your orientation, it might be time to consult a professional to help you sort things out. It is best to find a therapist or coach who specializes in sexuality and who you can feel comfortable with.

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Landlord-Tenant Law: Rights and Responsibilities

Jul 22 2020 Published by under Uncategorized

In a college town like La Crosse, Wis., it’s no surprise that one of every two residents lives in a rental property. If you’re one of those renters or landlords-or you’re getting ready to help your own son or daughter find a place to rent this fall, it’s important to understand your basic rights and responsibilities.

While the specifics will vary with individual leases, Wisconsin requires these basics.

For Tenants

    • You cannot be unlawfully discriminated against on the basis of race, color, national origin, ancestry, age, religion, sex, familial status, marital status, handicap, sexual orientation, lawful source of income or status as a victim of domestic violence/sexual abuse/stalking.


    • Your landlord cannot enter the property without notice, except in an emergency.


    • You have the right to property that is not dangerous or lacking basic needs. That means you are entitled to heat in the winter, intact windows, deadbolt locks on doors, smoke alarms and other basics to keep you safe on the property.


    • You have the right to know if there’s lead paint on the property.


    • You can (and should) request a check-in/check-out sheet before moving in. That sheet can help pinpoint problems with the property and determine whether you can expect the landlord to fix it. If it’s a fundamental feature, you may request it be fixed. If it’s cosmetic, the landlord may choose whether to repair it, and you may likewise choose not to rent. In any event, going through the checklist before moving in will ensure the landlord can’t hold you responsible for broken fixtures or problems that existed before you moved in.


    • Once you’ve rented, if you encounter problems and an unresponsive landlord, you have the right to complain to the city inspection department without retaliation by the landlord. Inspectors can order landlords to fix problems.


    • If a problem exists that requires you to leave the property, you may be entitled to rent abatement, which is essentially a prorated return on the rent.


    • If you pay a security deposit, you have the right to a 21-day notice of the landlord’s intention to charge against it. You may not be charged for normal wear and tear, including routine maintenance and cleaning.


  • When tenancy ends, you have the right to a full refund of your security deposit balance within 21 days of vacating.

For Landlords

    • You have the right to receive rent in full and on time according to the specifics of your lease agreement.


    • You have the right to inspect the property on 12 hours’ notice. It’s always best to provide notice in writing.


    • You have the right to enter the property without notice in an emergency, such as flooding or a gas leak.


    • You have the right to a tenant who does not destroy or abuse the property such that its value is diminished.


    • You have a right to evict the tenant if they are using the property for illicit purposes, e.g., dealing drugs.


    • When the tenancy ends, you have the right to get your keys back or charge the tenant for costs to rekey the property.


    • You are entitled to request a security deposit, usually equal to one month’s rent. If you must rekey a lock or conduct repairs beyond normal wear and tear, you may deduct those fees from the deposit. It’s best to keep a written record of such expenses.


    • If damages exceed the amount provided by a security deposit, you have the right to file a lawsuit to collect the balance.


    • In cases where renters violate the terms of a lease agreement (e.g., failure to pay, property damage, etc.), you may end the tenancy. For month-to-month renters, you can provide a five-day notice, giving the renter five days to cure the violation before requiring them to vacate. Alternatively, you may provide a 14-day notice that offers no option to maintain the tenancy but instead alerts tenants that the agreement has ended and they have two weeks to vacate. The notice rule is different for yearly tenants.


  • If tenants do not move out by the appointed deadline, you may pursue eviction proceedings in small claims court.

Generally speaking, reputable landlords will use written leases to spell out rules and general principles that will apply during the term of the lease. Leases work best when used in conjunction with a lead paint disclosure form, if appropriate, check-in/out lists and a security deposit sheet. Written records tend to be far more accurate than memory and are generally deemed more reliable by courts. Given the ease of use of digital cameras, often landlords and tenants both will take photos of the property before and after the tenancy.

Landlord-tenant law can be very complex. Should you, as a tenant or landlord, encounter a dispute regarding a rental property or lease, your best bet is to consult a real estate attorney experienced in rental property issues.

For both tenants and landlords, the city of La Crosse offers a Residential Rental Inspection Pamphlet that outlines rights and responsibilities for both parties. It can also provide basic guidelines for renting elsewhere in Wisconsin.

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How Can a Sexologist Help You in Life?

Jul 22 2020 Published by under Uncategorized

Sexology can be defined as a scientific study that can easily be applied in human sexuality. This also includes functions, sexual interests and behaviors. This term does not always refer to the non- scientific study such as social criticism and political science. All it deals with is sex and only sex. These sexologists are very professional and well- learned and they apply all the tools from various academic fields like medicine, biology, epidemiology, psychology, criminology and sociology. The topics include sexual orientation, sexual development, sexual relationships, paraphilia and normal sexual activity.

Sexology details

Any normal sexuality can easily cover a very broad or wide spectrum. Also most of the experts in this particular field are very much interested in diversity of the human sexuality and this is what can contribute to the process of sexual development. This means that there is an interaction between sexuality and culture. The other professionals can also be interested in pathologies and the facts that cause people to develop in a very dangerous or abnormal manner when it comes to behaviors. Here arises the topic of sexual dysfunction for most of the professionals in this particular field. In this case the researchers study the various solutions and causes for this particular problem in order to improve your quality of life if you are also struggling with such a problem.

Cons of this field

A sexologist during the course of his practice can go through a lot of downs. This is because the society is not yet completely open with topics related to sex and sexual interests. Not everyone is open to or comfortable with discussing sex with the doctor. This makes things all the more difficult for the sexologist and improving the quality of life can become extremely complex.

Freud, a well renowned professional in this field developed a particular theory on this field. There are mainly three stages namely, oral, phallic, Anal, genital and latency. Almost all of these stages run from the infant stage to the puberty stage and then continues onwards. After this theory was discussed most of the researchers gathered a lot of momentum and this helped them to continue with a lot more researches. This momentum has only resulted in helping us and no one else. Thus it becomes all the more important to study sexology with a lot of concentration in order to improve our sexual life. It is one of the important things to remember.

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Explaining Men & Women’s Sexual Behaviours

Jul 22 2020 Published by under Uncategorized

Behaviours are more strongly influenced by sex than by orientation. This is because our sex affects our responsiveness. But orientation has nothing to do with responsiveness. Sexual behaviours include enhancing attractiveness, giving pleasure and showing initiative. A sexual behaviour is one that differentiates men from women and gays from heterosexuals.

On average men are much more promiscuous than women. Homosexual men demonstrate similar behaviours to heterosexual men. Regardless of orientation, men have a drive to engage in penetrative sex and to enjoy the eroticism of being physically intimate with a lover.

Lesbian women are rarely promiscuous. Lesbians have long-term relationships based on emotional attachments. Lesbian relationships are not necessarily focused on genital stimulation. Lesbians enjoy spending companionable time together and engaging in affectionate sex play, such as kissing, cuddling and sensual touching. They do not always engage in genital activity but if they do, their lovemaking focuses on the clitoris.

Women’s orgasm techniques are much less consistent than men’s tend to be. Notably behaviours differ significantly between gay and straight women. Sexual orientation determines erotic turn-ons (whether we are aroused by the same sex or opposite sex). It should not logically change the anatomy that is involved in how women achieve orgasm.

Men initiate most heterosexual activity including dating and intercourse. Men seek out sources of eroticism to enjoy their own arousal. The vast majority of men masturbate regularly. Men’s bravado involves boasting about the number of sexual opportunities and partners they have had. Men exhibit a much greater range of sexual perversions and deviancies than women do. Men are responsible for the vast majority of sexual abuse, sexual assault and rape. Men are paedophiles, they have fetishes, etc.

Some men need a woman to act out a sexual role in order to obtain their sexual and emotional satisfaction. Men’s minds are much more varied in how they use real life scenarios for erotic arousal. For example some men want a woman to act out a role or engage in a fetish or just suck on a woman’s nipple as if breast-feeding. This scenario presumably provides the emotional reassurance of a mother’s love. Women do not obtain physical gratification or sexual release from similar scenarios. Some women will provide for a man’s unusual needs especially if they are paid.

A man approaches sexual activity with a lover intent on intercourse. This means men’s arousal cycle, from erection to ejaculation, is centre stage. So men are highly sensitive about their ability to achieve and maintain an erection as well as engage in sexual activity without ejaculating too soon. A man’s erection signifies his virility and ability to impregnate a woman.

Men’s emotions (aggressive behaviour) and emotional needs (sex) are easy for a woman to understand. Men are much less aware of women’s emotional needs. Women’s reward is caring for those they love. Sex provides a woman with a means of rewarding a man. Women use the conscious sexual behaviours of being willing to provide male turn-ons by the way they present themselves, by what they say and how they behave.

Women are relatively passive during sexual activity. They dislike genital display and manipulation. Sex is not an activity that women are typically motivated to initiate. Most women engage in sexual activity only as a response to a man’s initiative. Women are essentially on the defensive. They only need to allow a man’s instinctive desire to explore their bodies.

Sex does not occur as a result of any natural response that a woman has. So even the idea of sex can be very embarrassing for a woman. Women feel uncomfortable about sex because the sex urge comes from a man’s body. Sex is something that men do to women. Men’s belief that women should experience the same pleasure that they do, puts pressure on women. Most women prefer to view sex as an emotional rather than an erotic experience. Sexual responsiveness seems crude and impersonal to women.

Women boast about orgasm for a number of reasons. They enjoy the attention they get. They enjoy feeling superior by intimidating other women. Women are also often selling sexual services including sex therapy where a male view of sex is used to sell supposed knowledge of techniques. Women rarely provide any explicit details and they never talk of erotic turn-ons. They typically provide sexual come-ons if selling sex.

The evidence for female responsiveness comes, not from one woman’s orgasm claims, but from the behaviour of women in the general population. For example, some women claim to be aroused by porn but they never refer to explicit turn-ons. If women were aroused by porn then they would also generate demand for male strip-bars and male lap-dancing bars. They would heckle and cat-call men in the street. Women don’t do this because men are much more willing. It is men who need to chase women.

Girls do not discuss sexual activities as freely or as frequently as boys do. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)

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Communication Differences Between Sexes

Jul 22 2020 Published by under Uncategorized

There are numerous recorded occasions that have set the phase to examine gender differences in the work environment. Regardless of whether these sex contrasts exist in the manner by which they impart, impact, or lead, people have consistently been seen as various and one of a kind arrangements of individuals. These distinctions have, to a limited degree, put ladies in the working environment off guard as a result of their apparent inadequacy to men, for the most part because of chronicled sexual orientation imbalances.

Decent variety in a work environment builds versatility among representatives; various gifts of different people have become extraordinary assets, which additionally bring about a pool of one of a kind commitments. As a different sexual orientations and culture meets up, it gives a range of perspectives to meet destinations and achieve objectives. In this way assorted work power is a domain where individuals acknowledge contrasts instead of deny them.

If we focus on gender differences, we could very well unravel the sexual orientation interchanges ties and take care of business quicker and make working condition bother free. Fruitful associations need to make successful correspondence inside a various workforce. So as to do as such, it is important to concentrate on the sexual orientation contrasts in correspondence designs. Neglecting the contrasts between the two sex jobs can create turmoil and predispositions in this way subsequently negatively affecting the general hierarchical presentation.

Be that as it may, sexual orientation issues emerging from misconception could be diminished inside the association by setting up balance among people. The best way to have a solid working climate inside an association is to recognize the distinctions and discover approaches to connect the correspondence inlet between the genders. Through two tests an endeavor has been made right now investigate various methodologies followed by male and female partners to impart in an association.

Sexual orientation communication difference starts during adolescence. Ladies are nurturers, and this quality can upgrade any work circumstance. Men are common suppliers. They are task-arranged and like to take care of business. These two styles supplement each other flawlessly, as long as there is a receptiveness and comprehension on each part.

Men see discussion as a way to trade data and issue settle. Men avoid individual points and talk about occasions, sports, news, and realities. They make a larger number of stories and wisecracks than ladies as an approach to show status and force. Men are immediate, obtuse, and discourse incorporates slang or swears words. Men get directly to take a shot at an undertaking and manufacture connections while chipping away at the venture. Men reflect and process data for dynamic inside.

Ladies abstain from utilizing forceful and undermining language regardless of their position. They show their subordinate status by being respectful and mild-mannered and exhibit their clout similarly however with a tad of train and straight face. In both the cases they dodge immediate and undermining correspondence.

Ladies need to be with their families, help other people, feel regarded and thought about, be a piece of a network, be glad for the organization they work for and be trusted. The entirety of this mirrors their requirement for association and relationship, which is likewise the principal motivation behind why ladies are so appropriate for business their characteristic capacity to create and look after connections.

Ladies converse with assemble compatibility and make associations. They examine individual themes like connections, emotions, and past encounters. Ladies alternate imparting. Ladies will in general be backhanded, thoughtful, and utilize more kindness words. Ladies achieve errands by building connections first. Ladies work so anyone can hear to other people, preparing data remotely for dynamic.

The female communication pattern and traits tend to be nurturing, indirect, and respectful. It is considered a rapport type talk. Considering nonverbal communication women gain an upper hand over their male counterparts. Women interpret nonverbal communication better than men. Men are less comfortable with making eye contact than women. Apparently, it has something to do with dominance, power and status. Direct eye contact is a sign of emotion. So, the less eye contact shared the less emotion.

As far as motions, stances and outward appearances, results give off an impression of being blended. However, essentially, people use motions, stances, contact and facial articulations in an unexpected way. For instance, ladies will in general grin and utilize outward appearances more than men do. Men show up increasingly loose in pose while ladies seem tenser.

People impart on various levels and their correspondence approaches are additionally extraordinary. Being discretionary is a characteristic that can’t be indicated on sexual orientation premise yet at the same time would state the females have an edge right now well, most men on occasion go about as open finished shells. Also, this is the thing that drives us to next parameter of being useful and requesting help. The guys are deceived all the more frequently similar to the helping operators to the females while the females balance the other extent.

The disappearance of gender communication differences began as ladies moved into higher administration positions, however the hole despite everything continues. Good sense should direct people to hear each out other and be more open to gaining from contrasts as opposed to permitting them to smother development and capacity to speak with each other.

So males and females working in various level and positions in the association ought to know about the distinctions and utilize the correct conversational style to impart according to the requirements and requests of circumstance of the work environment. It doesn’t imply that female office faculty ought to fundamentally embrace male’s reporting style and the other way around, it implies as per the idea of working spot they ought to team up with one another in correspondence to work viably with the correct correspondence style in order to refuse the contentions to ascend among them.

Men will adopt the strategy of instrumental correspondence style where they need the appropriate response immediately and set up their progression and matchless quality. Ladies, then again, will be a greater amount of an expressive style of correspondence as they will have the option to trust in others and are more touchy to issues than men ladies will have the option to assemble, keep up and reinforce the relationship.

Accordingly, people speak with one another in their own correspondence styles, they likewise follow their individual procedures and approaches yet the reason stay same that is to construct spans. People’s contrasting correspondence styles are based both in science and nature.

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BDSM – A New Sexual Orientation?

Jul 22 2020 Published by under Uncategorized

The term ‘sexual orientation’ is mostly used about being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transsexual (LGBT). This powerful concept – ‘sexual orientation’ – pioneered courageously by members of the LGBT community, has empowered people, within the last 50 years or so, to think of themselves as not bad, or sick, but just different.

Readers may remember that it is not all that long since homosexuality was considered a form of sickness. Until 1973 Homosexuality was listed in the American Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) as a psychopathology: a form of mental illness. The underlying assumption here was that gay people had something wrong with them. While there are of course still individuals who think this, it is no longer generally seen in this way, at least in the USA and UK.

Most people have heard of S&M, or SM (in case you’re one of the few who hasn’t, it stands for Sadism and Masochism). Fewer have heard of D/s (domination and submission), but the most comprehensive acronym which is in general use by those who take part in these activities is BDSM (the B is for bondage). If you Google BDSM you will find a lot of porn websites, some community sites run by members of the BDSM community, sites of suppliers of BDSM gear (fetish clothing, specialist fetters and restraints, whips and so on).

However for those looking for serious research into the prevalence and experience of people who indulge in BDSM with consenting adults, there is not very much around. And yet these practices seem quietly to be sneaking their way into our consciousness, with a growing stream of articles and documentaries which, while they are not serious academic work, are also not purely porn. The internet, TV and mainstream magazines are providing media for people who are perfectly nice, and ‘ordinary’ (whatever that means) to reveal that they get off on BDSM activities. In these articles and TV shows, participants generally don’t seem to feel there’s anything wrong with them, or that they have anything to apologise for about their sexual practices. Having said that, most BDSM-ers feel uncertain about how they might be judged for their activities by, say, employers, friends, health professionals and family. In effect, then, it seems many BDSM-ers think of themselves as not sick, but as having a different sexual orientation.

If we think of BDSM as a sexual orientation then what are the implications of this? The following is a rough list.

  • BDSM is not proof of some kind of emotional damage (e.g. trauma or abusive parenting)
  • People cannot be counselled or otherwise ‘treated’ out of being into BDSM
  • People should not be discriminated against for being into BDSM
  • People are not in some way ‘ill’ if they are into BDSM
  • People are not in some way ‘bad’ if they are into BDSM

Those who do see BDSM as a form of sickness can still find support in the DSM, where activities involving, for example ‘the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one’s partner’ are classified as a paraphilia: a form of mental disorder. But this is a grey area because there is a systematic ambiguity about whether ‘suffering’ or ‘humiliation’ within a mutually consensual roleplay situation is what is meant here. The BDSM players who are on our TV screens, or internet sites, or who are running businesses around BDSM are talking about exactly this mutually consensual game, as opposed to real, non-consensual torture or humiliation.

For therapists who may encounter clients who present with BDSM-related issues, I invite you to consider the bullet points above, and to see if any of these statements conflicts with attitudes you may have held about BDSM. I invite you to entertain the idea of BDSM as a sexual orientation.

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Sexual Responsiveness & Orientation

Jul 22 2020 Published by under Uncategorized

Sexuality is about responsiveness and orientation, both of which are determined before we are born. Among the genes we inherit from our parents are those that determine responsiveness and orientation. Any child can potentially be born homosexual. Likewise, we are all born with varying degrees of responsiveness. Responsiveness is a measure of the frequency with which a person’s mind responds positively to eroticism in such a way that causes arousal (blood to flow to the sex organ). When we have an opportunity to focus on our mental arousal, this tension gradually builds up until it peaks and is released as nervous energy, that is called orgasm.

There are three key aspects to responsiveness: biological, emotional and intellectual. The most important aspect is biological since this is the physiological response. All men orgasm (with varying frequencies) because male orgasm is the physiological trigger for ejaculation of semen. Ejaculation is a male glandular emission related to men’s territorial instincts to dominate and fight for possession of resources. Male mammals mark out their territory by spraying glandular emissions over land marks to deter competitors. Female mammals are not territorial in the same way. Women do not have male glands so women cannot ejaculate as men do.

Most men engage in regular sexual activity throughout their active lives. Most (but not all) men enjoy masturbation and fantasies. But men usually need a partner to enjoy the best erotic satisfaction. The need for regular penetrative sex with a lover is emotionally significant to men (important to their state of well-being). The term ’emotionally significant’ has nothing to do with the emotional aspects of intercourse women may enjoy. Even if a woman is responsive, her enjoyment of orgasm is an occasional pleasure.

Responsiveness reflects a person’s total orgasm frequency both alone and with a lover. Men are much more responsive than women ever are. Even responsive women only ever orgasm by masturbating alone. Being unresponsive (rarely or never having an orgasm) is completely normal for women. Research indicates that around 10% of women openly admit they have never had an orgasm in their whole lives. Another 20% (30% in total) are essentially unresponsive: they readily admit that they rarely orgasm.

No one teaches us how to orgasm. We discover orgasm because we have the capability. Orgasm is a significant response that we definitely realise we have had. Naturally we are naturally pleased when we have our first orgasm but we don’t tell our parents or our friends about it. Our instincts tell us (if the general embarrassment over sex doesn’t) that orgasm is personal. Even later on, orgasm is a pleasure that we keep private. Those who truly orgasm (men for example) don’t typically boast about it.

Our orientation is defined by who we are attracted to, for example, the same sex or the opposite sex. Most people are heterosexual, which means that they are attracted to people of the opposite sex. Some people are attracted to their own sex. When this is exclusive (they are never attracted to the opposite sex) we say that they are homosexual. A person who engages in sexual activity with someone of either sex is called bisexual. Orientations are completely normal and accepted in most societies today.

We have no choice over our orientation. It is just the way we are. Orientation is not a life-style choice. We do not become gay because of the people we associate with or because our parents raised us in a certain way. Our sexual orientation (whether we are aroused by or amenable to sex with a lover of the same or opposite sex) is innate (we are born that way).

There is a biological precedent for heterosexuality because intercourse between a man and a woman is the basis of reproduction. But human sexuality is much broader than a purely reproductive function. Although it is usual for people to be heterosexual, it is not abnormal for someone to be attracted to a person of the same sex either exclusively or just occasionally.

Sexual orientation is just one aspect of ourselves. Orientation does not change how we are as human beings, our personalities and talents. Men are more likely to identify their orientation because men are responsive. Most men deduce their orientation during puberty because of the fantasies they have. Orientation is less significant to women because of their lack of responsiveness. Many women never have sexual fantasies. A woman may feel different to other women but not understand the reason why. Lesbians often marry and have children before realising years later that they are gay.

Far from being a disorder, low libido is just the natural state of affairs for many women. (Bella Ellwood-Clayton 2013)

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Burning Plastic Causes Cancer, Sexual Orientation Problems, and Respiratory Diseases

Jul 22 2020 Published by under Uncategorized

The smoke of burning plastic contains toxic particles; these toxic particles can cause cancer when inhaled. When these burnt particles fall back to the ground, they contaminate the soil for many years and may render vegetables and fruit harvested from gardens in these areas unsafe to eat.

Separate plastic from other rubbish that is to be burnt and dispose of safely. Pigs, goats and chickens eating grass or food scraps contaminated with dioxins from the burnt plastic will pass it on to humans when these animals are then eaten.

Open burning of plastic waste is simply dangerous to your health and the health of the environment. Plastic such as PVC (polyvinylchloride) is common in such products as: bottles, jugs, plastic packaging and plastic bags from the supermarket. When these plastics are burnt, carbon monoxide, dioxins and furans are released into the air. Studies have linked dioxins and furans to cancer and respiratory diseases, most especially in children as their respiratory systems may not be fully developed. It also causes birth defects in the respiratory and cardiovascular systems when inhaled by a pregnant mother.

Dioxin is a toxic organic chemical that contains chlorine and is produced when chlorine and hydrocarbons are heated to high temperature.


These toxic components inhaled with smoke from burning plastic materials can cause hormonal and sex behavioral orientation problems with your newborn child, as a result, the child could begin exhibiting behavior in total contrast to his or her sex – a male acting female or vice versa.

Researchers have established that inhaling burnt plastic materials have altered sexual characters of some birds (from male to female). They have also revealed the same defects can easily occur in human beings. Plastics should never be burnt in the open air, there are recycling options available for disposal of these waste products.

Dioxins and furans can also cause impotence, asthma and a myriad of other allergies in humans. Medical reports show exceptionally low sperm counts in young men in comparison to previous generations. Testicular cancer has increased by 55 % between 1979 and 1991 and fewer boys are being born in areas where burning plastic is practiced. Some girls are achieving puberty earlier than earlier generations, this can also be a result of inhaling dioxin and furans.


STOP BURNING PLASTIC NOW! If your neighbour is burning plastic, report them to your health department.

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Sexual Orientation – What Direction Is Your Compass Pointing?

Jul 22 2020 Published by under Uncategorized

Sexual orientation can be simply described as what sort of sex a person finds themselves attracted to and in what way. Sexual orientation is described by the American Psychological Association as follows: “Sexual orientation refers to an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to men, women, or both sexes.” It is an integral part of who we are as humans, though it may not be apparent in a person’s conduct, activities, or appearance. There are many factors that go into one’s orientation, and it usually encompasses a combination of environmental, emotional, hormonal, and biological factors.

While there are numerous orientation groups, there are four that are agreed upon in scientific circles. These terms were coined in the 19th century, and we use them to this day.


This defines the group that feels attracted to the opposite sex, examples being a man attracted to women or a woman attracted to men. This is also known in slang terms as “hetero” or “straight.”


This term is used to define the group that feels attracted to the same sex, examples being a woman attracted to women or a man attracted to men. Men who are homosexual sometimes use the term “gay,” and homosexual women often use the term “lesbian.”


Those that associate with this group fall neither within heterosexual nor homosexual definitions, but instead feel emotionally romantic toward and/or sexually attracted to both men and women, whether they themselves are a woman or man. People who have distinct (but not exclusive) attraction to a gender may also fall into this category – an example would be a woman who prefers men, but will also consider attraction with another female.


Classic ideas about sexual orientation have been steadily changing over recent years to accommodate for the term “asexual.” An asexual person is someone who does not feel any sort of emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction. In essence, it is a lack of either interest in sex, or sexual attraction to others.

The asexual orientation has only recently been adopted as an orientation at all, and is still disagreed upon by many. Some interject that, for an orientation to exist, it must point in a certain direction, and that the lack of sexual desire is a sickness or dysfunction. The image of a compass is used as a metaphor – while a compass can point in many different directions, and even change directions, a compass that does not have a needle is not pointing anywhere and is in fact broken. Again, we’re talking about other people’s opinions here. If a person is happy and healthy and functioning properly, who’s to say that being asexual can somehow be compared to a broken compass? It can’t and nor should it be. If a person is happy with who and what they are, why suggest anything is broken in the first place?

Additional Orientations

There are many more variations of sexual orientation, and some conjecture that we have yet to discover them all. Among these are pansexual, the attraction to all sexes and/or gender identities; polysexual, an attraction to multiples sexes and/or gender identities; and intersexual, being someone who is neither biologically male nor female, and may or may not include a missing sense of sexual orientation.

Though these additional orientations are not widely accepted, taught about, or spoken of, they do indeed exist and are just as valid a form of orientation as any of those previously mentioned.

Lack of Mutability in Sexual Orientations

For many years, it was rumoured (and widely believed) that one’s sexual orientation could be shifted and changed based on how one was raised or what sort of sexual or emotional experiences one had while growing up. However, with the acknowledgment by scientific professionals that sexual orientation is not a choice, there also came the acknowledgment that people have one orientation and it does not change. While there are many who hide their orientation, or are sometimes confused about their true orientation, this does not mean the orientation is shifting.

It has been agreed upon that as much as one may try to “change how they feel,” in the long run there has been no evidence this results in the desired outcome. In fact, psychologists have proven that trying to force someone to feel sexually towards a gender that they are not attracted to can cause long term mental repercussions.

Social Influences on Sexual Orientations

Sexual orientation is said to, arguably, go hand-in-hand with social identity and orientation. This means that one’s social environment, such as the behavior, thoughts, and orientation of the people surrounding an individual, is often what helps to define one’s sexual orientation. The example may be used that, due to an individual’s family being of a certain religion, they will be predisposed to a certain form of sexual orientation. This is arguable due to the fact that many individuals have come out of social environments that look down upon their sexual orientation, and the person is forced to either hide it or reject that social environment.

The Kinsey Scale

Also called “The Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale,” this scale was created by Alfred Kinsey in an attempt to deepen the description and definition of sexual orientation. Based on one’s sexual history, they can find their place on the scale and describe themselves based upon it. The scale goes from 0 to 6, where 0 is purely heterosexual and 6 is purely homosexual. Therefore, the numbers 1 to 5 indicate some scale of bisexuality. Kinsey described the reasoning behind his scale: “The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories… The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects. While emphasizing the continuity of the gradations between exclusively heterosexual and exclusively homosexual histories, it has seemed desirable to develop some sort of classification which could be based on the relative amounts of heterosexual and homosexual experience or response in each history [… ]. An individual may be assigned a position on this scale, for each period in his life. [… ] A seven-point scale comes nearer to showing the many gradations that actually exist.” These days, the Kinsey Scale is considered a step in a better direction, but by no means a complete reference, as it is far too linear. Rating sexuality in a 0-6, in an up-or-down method, does not even begin to describe the uniqueness of each sexual orientation.

So, as we begin to explore the uniqueness of each individual, I hope that from the brief descriptions given above, we can at least see that people come into this world with their compasses pointing in different directions. Indeed, even acknowledging and accepting those who have no needle in their compass!

Copyright Piaras O Cionnaoith 2013

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